Creating a life beyond childlessness

In my early twenties I decided that life isn’t about finding yourself, but about creating yourself and that’s what I’m busy with since… 

What most people know about me is…
  • I’m a serial entrepreneur, digital nomad, full-time traveler, and happily married with my soulmate.
  • Originally from The Netherlands, but living abroad for 11+ years. I’ve been born and raised in a Frisian tribe (yes, that stubborn part in the North of the Netherlands that speaks another language besides Dutch), of which I’m very proud.
  • I have found a way to combine several passions into an amazing career, which are all enriching each other in multiple ways. I am a women empowerment coach, teacher-director, graphic designer, postpartum doula, and pediatric sleep consultant. I work with women and their families all around the world to help them thrive and grow. 
  • I am constantly on the move, crossing oceans, climbing mountains, and driving around on the motorbike. Everything I own fits in my backpack and I have friends all around the world.
  • I am a typical Capricorn; ambitious, disciplined, loyal, sensitive, and quite practical. I always aim high, like to dive deep, and continuously work towards my idea of an extraordinary life.
Adventures and experiences from Rianna Hijlkema all over the world
But, what most people don’t know about me is…
  • For 5+ years I’ve been juggling my nomadic lifestyle with fertility treatments and it has been one of my most challenging experiences. Dealing with pain, fear, hope, anger, confusion, heartache, frustration, crying, grief, disappointment, misunderstanding, anxiety, envy, sadness and isolation all at once, while living abroad. Unfortunately, we remained childless not by choice.
  • In 2018 I found my husband’s name on the list of dead people, whom didn’t survive the double natural disaster in Palu, Indonesia. Only fifteen hours later I got a phone call that he was still alive. What most people don’t know about me is that up to now I totally freak out if I don’t hear anything from him for more than 3 hours. I’m talking about a raised heartbeat, short of breath and a mind that’s imagining the worst things possible.
  • In 2019, after years of dreaming and hard work, we managed to get a visa and started our live in Nepal. In the midsts of several projects and the construction of our house, Covid-19 came and we had to leave. After 3 months of severe confusion we redesigned our life. We both changed from expats to digital nomads and truly enjoying our new life in Mexico. What most people don’t know is that I feel guilty for having left the friends we made and the children of the school in the village and I keep sending a percentage of my earnings to support educational projects in Nepal.
  • Sometimes I need to take a holiday from my lifestyle.
  • Despite living the life exactly as I want it, I feel guilty towards my parents, my 3 younger brothers and my friends for being so far away. I try to show my support in other ways, but know that this is not always enough.
  • What most people don’t know about me is that I’m actually an introvert. As a highly sensitive person I need more down time than most people, to decompress all the emotions, experiences and stories from the people I’ve been in contact with.
  • I gave up on cheese (yes, I’m Dutch!) cold turkey after joining WildFit back in 2020.
  • I got married twice, with the same man.
  • I’m telling everyone how important yoga is to improve your wellbeing, but can’t get myself on the mat. Somehow I seem to get more relaxed after a good boxing session.
  • People think that I’m fearless, but that’s not true. I’m scared of making mistakes, saying the wrong things and upset or hurt other people. I’m afraid of not being good enough, for friends, family and sometimes even strangers. I’m afraid of spiders (and they are big outside of Europe!) and injections (thank you IVF!). The only difference is that I just don’t let my fears stop me.
About Rianna Hijlkema all the things most people don't know about me
On a mission…

If there’s one thing I’ve learned throughout my life is to trust that no matter what you’re going through and feeling right now, is temporary and most often will playout for the positive (even the unplanned and seemingly bad things). A good question to ask yourself, if you’re going through a challenging transition, is the following:

‘What might be good at this?’

Have faith that the only transitions thrown at you, are the ones that you can handle. We’re here to grow and evolve, and I’m on a mission to help women use their transition as an opportunity to redesign their life, just as I did with mine.

Please feel free to reach out for a chat, a conversation, or a coaching session.
Be messy, complicated, and afraid, and show up anyway!

With love,
Rianna