Creating life beyond childlessness

"Let the waves hit your feet, and the sand be your seat."

'M-day' Getaway

Isla Mujeres, Mexico | May 11 - 14, 2023

Mother’s Day can be a difficult and emotional time when you are involuntarily childless. Whether it’s due to miscarriage, infertility, or circumstances, the pain of not being able to become a mother is profound. It’s a daily struggle to come to terms with the grief, even when it’s been years since you’ve stopped trying.

Are you looking for a chance to relax, rejuvenate, and connect with other childless women in a beautiful beach setting? Look no further! This retreat is designed for women who are involuntarily childless, and offers a supportive and inclusive environment for self-discovery and growth.

You’ll have the opportunity to participate in a variety of activities, including yoga and meditation classes, workshops on topics such as self-care and self-compassion, and group discussions on the unique challenges (and joys) of being a childless woman. You’ll also have plenty of free time to explore the local area, relax on the beach, or simply unwind with a good book.

“The quality of your life, ultimately depends
on the quality of your relationships”

This retreat is located in a secluded beachfront property, with comfortable accommodations and delicious meals included. You’ll leave feeling refreshed, recharged, and connected to a community of like-minded women.

Don’t miss this opportunity to take some time for yourself and connect with others who understand the unique experience of being childless not by choice, especially on days like these. 

Book your spot today and get ready for an unforgettable experience!

The 'M-day' Getaway Program

Meet Your Host & Island Guide Rianna Hijlkema

My name is Rianna, originally from The Netherlands, but currently living in Argentina. I’m a multi-passionate serial entrepreneur living a nomadic life for the past 11 years. Traveling to 40+ countries and working on four continents has taught me to approach life (and business) with resourcefulness and resilience.

Sounds pretty good, right?

Yup, until infertility knocked on my door. The first 4 years I’ve kind of wasted my life (even though I was laying on white sandy beaches, hiking mountains and ‘living the life’) on the inside I felt so terribly lonely. Nowhere could I find friends who understood the challenges I was facing.

Along the way, I rediscovered my love for walking and connected with childless women all around the world. Those connections became a huge part of my recovery as I worked on my overall health and well-being. If I was a doctor I would prescribe friendships for everyone, but I’m not so… I provide opportunities instead!

And the ‘M-day Getaway’ is one of them!

This retreat will give you the opportunity to connect with women (like me!) who understand the triggers, confrontations and other emotions that arise on a day like this. Instead of dreading this day, we gonna create memories for a lifetime!


What Others Say About Working With Me...

"I am beyond grateful for your quality time and effort to guide me. You've inspired me to follow my heart and intuition as of lately.

Thank you for pushing me to really evaluate what I wanted, it helped so much.

Also thank you so much for your insights. Your words mean so much to me and just being around your energy fills me up with inspiration."
Carolina M.
Student Master Therapy/Psychology
"I felt lost and emotionally out of balance. The support that Rianna gave me, was the perfect gift to help me move forward. The framework she is using clarified many things, which led to revelations during the week, which helped me make new decisions. Rianna guided me to open up the different layers and then helped me flip this information into something practical for the future. Rianna was a crucial piece in the transition that I was going through."
Laura - testimonial women empowerment coach Rianna Hijlkema
Laura Giosh-Markov
Positive Discipline workshop facilitator, Parent consultant, Counselor, and Music Therapist
"I contacted Rianna, because I was going through a deep down. I was feeling lost, I didn’t know where to start, I was overwhelmed with self-doubt and I had no clarity at all on where to go, or even to start. I resonated with Rianna and was provoked by her way of living her life. Rianna gave me the tools to sit down, work through them and understand why I feel a certain way. Rianna does an amazing way of guiding; very encouraging, supportive, but also challenging."
Maria Kacharava
Support Service Team Leader

"A unique and empowering experience"

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Frequently Asked Questions

This retreat is exclusively for women who are childless-not-by-choice. 

Being childless-not-by-choice is not a one-and-done kind of thing. You don’t get over it and move on. You will still have times when you wish things had turned out differently. That’s ok. It’s ok to grieve the life you didn’t get. It’s ok to be angry. But remember, even though you have to do it all by yourself, you don’t have to do it alone. We’ve got you!

After talking to hundreds of women who are childless not by choice, I know that not taking action can leave you stuck in grief for decades, maybe even your whole life. Just existing and not living can lead to anxiety, depression and loneliness. And I believe that life is too freaking short for that!

If you are interested, but can’t make these dates, reach out to me (email: and I will keep you in the loop on upcoming dates! 

  • Passport and other travel documents (please make sure vour passport is current. It’s safest if it expires at least 6 months past your date of return to the US.
  • Bug spray and sunscreen/ first aid and medications
  • Toiletries/feminine products
  • Bathing suit
  • Rain poncho (just incase)
  • Comfortable summer clothing
  • Light sweater for evening
  • Comfortable sneakers/ sandals/ water shoes for walking (ie not just flip flops)
  • Book(s)to read.
  • Journal/pen

From Cancun International Airport it’s 30 minutes to the Isla Mujeres Ferry. The boat trip is 30-45 minutes. Hotel check-in is possible after 4pm.

On Sunday we will check-out at 11pm and take the 12 pm ferry back to Cancun.

  • Connection call (virtual, April 18th at 1 pm New York Time)
  • 3 nights accomodation 
  • Daily three times vegetarian/vegan/regular meals
  • Daily morning & evening circle sessions

Questions, doubts or something else?

Making such a big investment in yourself is scary. I totally understand.

Please reach out to me at if you have any questions, or book a virtual coffee chat to get a feel of what it would look like to spend time together.