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Rianna Hijlkema

Women Empowerment Coach

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July 7, 2022July 7, 2022

My speech @ Purpose Pioneers

Rianna talks about the struggles we all experience in life and how they can push us away from the life of our dreams. She explains how to move from a …

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Rianna Hijlkema fertility treatments feeling empowered
March 14, 2022March 14, 2022

7 habits to feel empowered while dealing with fertility treatments

Fertility treatments are extremely intense. Dealing with pain, fear, hope, anger, confusion, heartache, frustration, crying, grief, disappointment, misunderstanding…

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slam poem 'just relax' infertility
April 5, 2022March 3, 2022

The 2 most harmful words | Slam Poem Infertility

Today I came across my recording and suddenly felt the need to put this out in public, to make sure that these 2 innocent (but harmful) words are avoided at all cost…

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  • Part of my speech for the Purpose Pioneers (virtual summit) of June ‘22…

Watch the full 9 min video : 
https://www.facebook.com/837994448/posts/pfbid02MbwrqY9dzB3mGdDDswJVQdPWX3DRZE3SZ9VmHCbyDCwym9B58cdXi8fEFAvX8ExQl/ or find it on my FB: Rianna Hijlkema
  • In the course of 6 years:
* my best friend started dating, found a partner AND has now a 1,5 year old
* my younger brother got 2 children, now 5 and 2 years old
* my parents became grandparents again (twice!)
* two of my cousins got a baby with a partner they’ve met only a year before
* my 10 years younger sister-in-law just gave birth
* my parents-in-law became grandparents for the first time
* two friends of mine are raising a baby by themselves after getting pregnant from a one-night stand

And here I am. Trying not to beat myself up over all the boundaries I’ve crossed for myself: ’I’d never do IVF’, ‘I’d never inject myself’, I’d never do more than 3 IVF’s’, I’d… 

I’m staring at all the echocardiograms of babies that never made it alive. Try dealing with the fact that our baby name got ‘stolen’ twice, having sex as a scheduled task instead of fun, and putting all of our time, money, and energy into babies, that never made it into our arms..

Over the years I became lonelier and lonelier. The constant uncertainty and waiting had put my life on hold and the emotional rollercoaster of infertility took over my marriage, my relationships, my work, my body, in fact, all of me! 

A couple of weeks ago we’ve decided to stop treatment. “Oh, you didn’t want it badly enough!” - is what I heard last week and that stings. I don’t feel like I gave up. I decided that there was only so much that I could actually deal with. 

And now we’re entering a whole new phase.. what does life look like after unsuccessful IVFs? 

Can you live an extraordinary life, despite not having what you want the most? 

I think it’s possible. No, it’s not going to be easy every day.. but it’s absolutely possible.. finding my way on the other side of IVF..
  • This is what my heart looked like, almost 6 years ago..

After all these years of treatment my heart is still big, bright and red - but with some unrepairable scars..

Watch the full 9 min. video here: https://www.facebook.com/837994448/posts/pfbid02MbwrqY9dzB3mGdDDswJVQdPWX3DRZE3SZ9VmHCbyDCwym9B58cdXi8fEFAvX8ExQl/

Or find it on my FB: Rianna Hijlkema

I’m on a mission to raise awareness around infertility and support those in the midst of it!
  • YES!!! You can absolutely live an extraordinary life before/during/after infertility.. No, there is no quick fix.. and no, it’s not going to be easy every day, but it’s totally possible!

My name Is Rianna Hijlkema. I help women who are (just like me) childless (not by choice!) to feel empowered and fully alive!

Want to walk through your challenges, your goals, and the process of working with me as your Empowerment Coach?

DM me *CURIOUS* and we can either chat in the DM or schedule a call.

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